Parents: Three Clues Your Child Is Using Drugs

Trust is key in parenting. Every parent wants to believe that when asked a direct question, the answer they get is the truth. Unfortunately, that’s not always so, especially when a child heads down the road of risky behavior. 

As part of its mission, SAFE in Sag Harbor is there to help parents navigate these troubled waters and increase awareness of the issue within the community.

Determining whether your child is using drugs can be challenging. In its article “Look for Warning Signs,” the Partnership for Drug-Free Kids notes “many of the signs and symptoms are, at times, typical teen or young adult behavior. Many are also symptoms of mental health issues, including depression or anxiety disorders.”

http://drugfree.org/article/look-for-warning-signs/

Familiarizing yourself with some of the commons signs of drug use is a good start. Whether those signs lead to other issues that need to be addressed or offer evidence (or not) of drug use, it’s important that parents “trust their gut.”

http://drugfree.org/article/spotting-drug-use/ 

In our experience, among the top three warning signs of drug use are:

1.     Withdrawal from activities or people

2.     Money missing from your wallet

3.     Mood swings

If your child shows any of these signs, it’s time for a conversation. Be prepared for it before the conversation starts. For more warning signs, read here:

https://www.ncadd.org/about-addiction/signs-and-symptoms/what-to-look-for-signs-and-symptoms

Kym Laube is the program director of SAFE in Sag Harbor, a community-based organization dedicated to creating a substance-abuse-free environment in Sag Harbor, safeinsagharbor.org

Parents: Three Ways To Raise A Drug-Free Child

Welcome to our very first monthly blog ... 

Sag Harbor teens out party the nation’s teens when it comes to drugs and alcohol. Parents can, and should, be part of the solution to this pressing problem in our community.

SAFE in Sag Harbor was established to combat the increasing incidence of risky behavior among Sag Harbor teenagers, and increase awareness of the issue within the larger community.

In its “Preventing Drug Use Among Children and Adolescents, A Research-Based Guide for Parents, Educators and Community Leaders,” The National Institute on Drug Abuse” notes that an imbalance between risk and protective factors in the home can influence whether a child is susceptible to drug abuse. Risk factors within the home include a chaotic home environment, lack of a significant relationship with a caring adult, and a caregiver who abuses substances, suffers from mental illness or engages in criminal behavior. Factors outside of the home, such as availability of alcohol and drugs, and social acceptability of risky behavior also impact a child’s susceptibility to using illegal substances. Protective factors include a strong family bond, parent involvement, and clear limits and consistent enforcement of discipline.

https://www.drugabuse.gov/sites/default/files/preventingdruguse_2.pdf

Similarly, the National Crime Prevention Council, in “How Parents Can Prevent Drug Abuse” lists six tips for parents, all of which involve parental involvement, clear communication, consistent rules, positive role modeling, and talking about the issue.

http://www.ncpc.org/topics/drug-abuse/alcohol-tobacco-and-other-drugs

Strong parenting is key in helping our kids avoid drug and alcohol use. Here are three steps toward helping your child to say no to drugs:

·      Talk to Your Child. Drugs is not a topic to avoid. Any discomfort will soon be replaced with relief that you’ve opened the conversation.

·     Get Involved. Spend time with your child every day doing what he/she wants to do, not what you want

·     Live the Life You Want Your Child to Live. Set a good example and, with luck, your child will follow it.

Parenting is hard. Being a parent to a child on drugs is harder. Talk to your child today.

Kym Laube is the program director of SAFE in Sag Harbor, a community-based organization dedicated to creating a substance-abuse-free environment in Sag Harbor, safeinsagharbor.org

Monthly Meeting Dates

Plan ahead to attend the monthly SAFE in Sag Harbor meetings. Mark your calendar today!

March 29

*April 19

May 17

June 21

July 19

August 16

September 20

October 25

November 22

December 20                                                                                                                                                    

All meetings will begin at 6 p.m. in the Pierson Library, except where noted (*room 1170). 

Meetings are open to the public.

First Whalers Family Feud Is A Success!

Check out the great fun had at the very first Whalers Family Feud at Bay Street Theater on Monday, January 31. Parents, community members, public officials, and students took on the challenge, testing their knowledge of markers for risky behavior and insider Sag Harbor trivia.